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     Toxic relationships in Campus

When it comes to love or relationships, the outcomes are always two. Either you get a healthy experience or a toxic one. A healthy experience is one which is beneficial in the long run. When the results are negative and chaos tend to be the main theme in your little love story, we say that you are in a toxic relationship.

In recent times, society has been overwhelmed with failed relationships. It's one thing for a relationship to fail and it's another thing for it to involve violence, abuse and all cruel stuff in the dictionary. The campus is just a vibrant youthful model of society. Everything happening there is a reflection of what's going on in the society as a whole. Toxic relationships included.

We can get all poetic here and give a million and one reasons as to why we have so many toxic relationships amongst our scholars. But it all always boils down to two main things, attachment and selfish desires. Attachment is the root of all evil. It robs one of their freedom. Campus students tend to get attached to their partners, and they go about building their whole life around their partners. Then they become needy and control freaks and love is lost.

Think for a while all the coercion and control you submit to on the part of others when you so anxiously live up to their expectations in order to buy their love and approval or because you fear you will lose them. There's no freedom here. And freedom is just another name for love. What happens next is you make good the bed for toxicity. Partners go to all lengths just to keep their 'lovers' at bay.

The problems arising from these types of relationships have far much greater consequences for campus students. One is already on the verge of going mad because of stress from school, add on to that a control freak of a partner. Down the drain goes your mental health. Depression among campus students is at an all time high. Their grades are calmly sitting at the bottom of the intellectual mountain. Now suicides rates start getting higher and higher. That or, the amount of drugs getting abused makes Pablo Escobar smile in his grave.

The question now is, how do we go about this? What's the solution, if there's any. 

The problem as we've seen is, we get attached to our partners. We build our lives around them. The first step is for you to drop your attachments. Complete yourself before you go for a partner. Love yourself. It's only when you love yourself you'll not be able to entertain cheating partners or abusive partners or violent partners. When someone calls you stupid every time and you still hang around them, it's probably because you believe yourself to be stupid.

When you love yourself you want the best for yourself. Same way you go to a thrift market and you don't leave till you pick the best clothes because that's how much you should love yourself. And sometimes you go home and try the clothes and sadly it doesn't fit you right, you let it go.